As said in a telugu song
సాపాటు ఎతులేదు పాటైన పాడు బ్రదర్
సాపాటు ఎతుల్త్డు పాటైన పాడు బ్రదర్
రాజధాని నగరంలో వీధి వీధి నీది నాదే బ్రదర్
స్వతంత్ర దేశంలో చావు కూడా పెళ్ళిలాంటిదే బ్రదర్
Before writing this article,i checked with the people i know and made some very astonishing facts that how people from different backgrounds make their life build up in spite of hurdles,and make them as advantages in achieve something in life.
in 2008 in mid jan there was a word that came up to limelight naming it as recession and this word made the whole world in to shadow and darkness and this is because of many people lost their jobs,don't know what to do next and sitting in their apartments for hours,how to repay the debits and credits they took when they are in a earning position and i have friends who just could not face the situation and try to kill themselves and this is not a solution,
In India a person is measured on the basis of job he does,money he earns and this is so painful that people some time don't even see the other side.
some parents take as advantage of their children and want them to do what they could not do in their childhood,when the child fails to make it ,they start comparing with other children and they try to insult the children before others and in society.
we get to see lot of youth starving for jobs,wanting to make some money so that they can make their life happy.
In india people see unemployed as a waste less candidates as they don't do any work,still sitting at home and depending on parents and i feel that is a wrong way to think .
parents need to support their children when they are low and unsuccessful and encourage them .many parents in India want their children to follow their rules and regulations and at times it makes so much that the person suffers mental strain and makes himself to bad habits.
VIEWS OF PARENTS I INTRACTED WITH AND WHAT DO THEY SAY WHEN THEIR CHILD IS UMEMPLOYED.
parents want their children to be in high position and wanting them to be big in life,but do they really understand their children,sorry to say but most of the parents in India don't do that because they only know that family with a engineer or a doctor will have a respect in the society and many more facilities but they don't understand the children thoughts,
thats why children after a while try to explain to their parents on what they are going to do and what they are wanting to make,many parents take that in a negative way and try to dominate their children.This lead to a wide range of actions and reactions.
But nowadays parents are changing and giving their children a chance to make their goals
MY DAD ALWAYS ASKS ME BEFOR HE TAKES A DECISON IN MY LIFE AND I ALWAYS TELL HIM I DONT WANT TO DO THE 9AM TO 5PM JOB BUT I NEED TO BE DIFFERENT IN THIS WORLD AND HE ALWAYS SEES AND TELLS ME WHAT YOU WANT TO BECOME THAT DEPENDS UPON THE GOALS YOU SET.
HERE I WANT TO MENTION TO YOU ONE THING WHEN I FAIL IN ANYTHING ACCIDENTLY OR COINCIDENCE MY DAD ALWAYS PRESENTS ME A GIFT AND THAT MOMENT I FORGOT ALL THE BAD AND ENJOY THE LIFE AND BEGAN MY NEW CAREER
many parents don't ask their children and due to financal problems they cannot afford to make children study and it will be acting on a negative manner and lead to quarrels,fights and at last something disaster happens.
ADVICE TO PARENTS…………………………….
- ALWAYS GIVE YOUR CHILD A CHANCE TO MAKE HIS LIFE
- TRY TO UNDERSTAND HIM AND SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE WITH YOU AT ODD TIMES
- ALWAYS DONT PUT YOUR THOUGHTS ON HIM
- ALWAYS MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE AFTER FAILURE
- DONT CAMPARE WITH OTHERS,THIS ACTS AS A NEGATIVE WAY
- ASK HIM WITHER HE HAD HIS FOOD OR NOT,BECOZE LOT OF PARENTS THING THAT WE ARE PROVIDING ALL FACILITIES AND MONEY BUT WHY HE IS NT MAKING.
- I ALWAYS SAY TO PEOPLE WHO MEET ME,TRY TO INTREACT WITH YOUR CHILD RATHER BEING STRICT THAT BRINGS LOT FAITH IN YOU TO YOUR CHILD AND GIVE CONFIDENCE.
ALWAYS MAKE SURE PARENTS DONT CAMPARE WITH OTHER CHILDREN AND MAKE HIM/HER BECAUSE IT MAKES A LASTING IMPRESSION ON THE CHILD.
ADVICE TO CHILDREN…………………………………………
- SET A GOAL FOR YOU AND CONVEY THAT TO YOUR PARENTS AND ASK THEM FOR THEIR SUPPORT.CONVINCE THEM AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE GREEN SIGNAL
- MANY PARENTS OPPOSE TO THEIR CHILDREN WHEN THEY CHOOSE A PARTICULAR COURSE OR STREAM,AS PARENTS THEY HAVE THEIR OWN FEARS.
- WHEN YOU ARE DOWN ALWAYS TRY TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH PARENTS
- DONT DEMAND AND DONT SIT IDEALLY AND MAKE SOMETHING AND SEARCH FOR YOUR OPPRUTINITES
- WHEN YOU BELIEVE IN SOMETHING STICK TO IT EVEN IF YOU HAVE THE INTIAL HICKUPS.THATS A PART OF LIFE
ALWASY HAVE THIS MANTRA IN YOUR MIND:
“LIFE IS A CLIMB BUT THE VIEW IS GREAT”
everyone gets a chance in their life to make something big and when it comes you have to just choose that path without hesitation and when you do it and it is indeed a great way to make
on a personal note i used to be thinking why parents are so tensed and up the air about the job of their children and choosing of courses but when it came to me i always had the last say in my life and
i don't regret to say that i failed in each decision i make and i always came to my parents and they showed lot of love and affection towards me.
ME BEING UNEMPLOYED BEFORE EVEN COMPLETEING MY MBA
after my bsc degree i thought to take mca and then hit back with my unstable mind to make t for mba and after the initial 2 to 3 months i did not like they way they treat as most of the schools(pg is also a type of school in coastal andhra) and starting to bunk college.
I always had the last smile because i got all 80% and i was good at ppts and whole lot of programs and i am against the old type of schooling where students even after coming to pg are been spoon feed.
i started to search for a job and i even went to Chennai to get a job and life goes and at all times i had the back up of my parents saying why do you need to do job,you need to study another 2yrs so even that my brother who works for @adp came bashing on me.
But that was a thrill.
i even saw and heared so many untold stories from many of friends struggling to make something ln life but could not do it and took their lives and i always say only one thing
keep faith in your life and goal and go on
why i have chosen in the beginning a song from a TELUGU movie akali rajayam because that song defines how does a unemployed youth struggels and could not get a meal a half day and drinks water and tells that there is nothing but huger is the friend of unemployed so be good to it.
share your experinces and hope you love my post and keep comments..
Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.
